Believe it or not when I first arrived at the church I now serve, it was very conservative. There were anti-gay, anti-pornography activists in the congregation. I soon discovered in many of the same families there was incest, adultery, pornography and all kinds of aberration. I soon began to see a correlation between the people obsessed with other people’s sexual behavior, and the people who could not handle their own.  My heart breaks when I see the agony in the eyes of people who are trying to deal with their own demons, by scapegoating someone else. Some of them hope that, since they cannot curb their own fantasies, that they will please God by punishing others. While protecting others from these people is our duty, we can still grieve for them when we consider their pain.