Well-meaning people can make matters worse by treating oppression as if it were a debate topic with two equally valid sides. Imagine a typical news program discussing the Holocaust. It would give the Jews and Nazi’s equal time. It would probably note that both sides were equally extreme, both equally intolerant, and then it might conclude that the mature solution would be meeting somewhere in the middle. If we do not wish to betray the vulnerable, we must first address the power imbalance in which the oppressed are being crushed. Only after both parties have equal power can a genuine dialogue happen. The hurt feelings of the oppressor when confronted, should never be put on the same scale as the actual pain of the oppressed.