I remember the first time I did a same-gender wedding years ago. I was so nervous. Was I supposed to declare them “wife and wife” or “husband and husband?” What if I said something that revealed my almost total ignorance about the gay life style?


What I discovered, of course, is that the “gay life style” is really a misnomer. Most people spend a very small percentage of their life in the act of love making, so calling the weddings “same-sex” is missing the most important point of all, that marriage is about love not sex.


I also discovered that the same-gender weddings were not so different either. If I eliminated sexism from the traditional service I was already there. In fact doing same-gender weddings has made my other weddings better. After all marriage is not primarily about sex, it is about two hearts vowing to be faithful kind and loving for the rest of their lives together.